Flip, Rent, or Hold: What’s the Best Path to Real Estate Riches?
Andi • October 5, 2017
Maybe you’re addicted to those home-flipping shows on HGTV where glam couples buy grim shacks, spend 22 minutes smashing down walls and adding funky kitchen backsplashes, and then make tens of thousands selling the refurbished places on the open market. Or perhaps you’re jonesing for a steady stream of extra income and feel certain you’ve got what it takes to be a landlord.
Or just maybe you’re on the prowl for a hands-off way to make serious real estate money with financial investments that don’t require laying down new flooring or screening prospective tenants.
Whichever option floats your boat, you’ve got plenty of company. After the epic boom-and-bust of the speculative home-flipping market in the aughts, everyone again seems to be looking to make a quick buck by becoming a real estate investor. But these days, there are a dizzying variety of different takes on the once-simple idea of property investing—all requiring varying levels of blood, sweat, tears—and risks. Which one might be right for you?
That’s where we come in. The realtor.com® data team looked at the five big real estate investments that everyday Joes and Janes may want to consider. Then we broke down the typical returns (aka profits) investors have received over the past few years, along with the pros and cons of each.
(Rampant flipping, spurred by overbuilding and easy, subprime mortgage-fueled credit, was a prime contributor to the real estate crash and recent financial crisis. But today, thanks to much tighter credit and inventory levels, home flipping is no longer the American economy’s red, flashing “danger” sign.)
“Over the generations, real estate has proven itself to be a pretty good, time-tested investment,” says Eric Tyson
, who co-authored “Real Estate Investing for Dummies.” “Like investing in the stock market, people who follow some basic principles and buy and hold over long periods of time should do fairly well.But, of course, there’s no guarantee.”
And that’s why the thrill-a-minute world of real estate investing isn’t for everyone—especially when life savings are involved.
“Real estate is very unpredictable,” says certified financial planner Jenna Rogers
of Mission Wealth in Santa Barbara, CA. “A lot of people feel like you can’t lose money in homes, but that’s not really the case. “If there’s any kind of turmoil in the market, real estate usually gets hit really hard.”
OK, now that we’ve gotten that
out of the way, let’s go shopping.
1. Home flipping: Not
exactly
like reality TV
First half of 2017 gross returns:
48.6%* 2014 gross returns:
45.8% 2012 gross returns:
44.8%
If the Property Brothers or Chip ’n’ Joanna can do it, why can’t you? Real estate reality TV has made the “fixer-upper” flipping market seem fun, very sexy—and mostly foolproof. But becoming a successful home flipper is a lot
harder than it looks on television. And it isn’t always as wildly profitable as you might think.
The returns appear deceptively high, as they don’t account for hefty renovation costs, closing costs, property taxes and insurance. Flippers should figure that about 20% to 30% of their profits will go straight toward such expenses, say experts. The median returns above only reflect sale price gains—not net profits.
Newbie investors need to make sure they’re thoroughly familiar with a neighborhood before they consider buying a potential flip in it, says Charles Tassell
, chief operating officer at the National Real Estate Investors Association, a Cincinnati-based investors group. This means looking at what kinds of homes are located nearby, what sort of shape they’re in, and how much they’ve sold for. Wannabe flippers should pay attention to the quality of local schools, transportation, and the job market—just as they would for their own home. Those are the things that can make or break a sale. And an investment.
A market where homes are still affordable but appreciating rapidly is ideal.
Like Pennsylvania! The highest flipping returns in the second quarter of the year were in Pittsburgh
, at 146.6%; Baton Rouge, LA
, at 120.3%; Philadelphia
, at 114%; Harrisburg, PA
, at 103.3%; and Cleveland
, at 101.8%, according to the real estate data firm ATTOM Data Solutions. Those Rust Belt cities topped the list because they have plenty of cheaper, older homes that can be easily updated, and
because housing prices there are rising as economies (slowly) improve.
Once they’ve settled on an area, flippers need to focus on the basic structure of prospective homes. Special attention should be paid to a home’s heating and cooling systems, foundation, and roof—the things that are most expensive to fix.
Then they need to create a realistic budget. Experts recommend setting aside 10% to 20% to cover any unknowns—like what’s inside the walls. Costly surprises are par for the course.
“The biggest hurdle of flipping is: The costs are never what they seem to be on HGTV,” says flipper and landlord April Crossley
, co-owner of Crossley Properties in Reading, PA. She owns the business with her real estate agent husband, and they do 8 to 10 flips a year. “In fact, they’re always way more.”
Flippers are gambling that the housing market stays strong in their target area—at least long enough to resell their investment home.
“You’re constantly anticipating what the market will be doing 6 to 12 months in the future,” says Daren Blomquist
, senior vice president at ATTOM. So if you miscalculate, and it drops, you could lose a lot of money.
2. Investment (rental) properties: You, too, could be a landlord
First half of 2017 returns:
13%* Three-year returns:
9.9% Five-year returns:
11.67%
Renting out a property provides a more predictable income stream.
Perhaps flipping homes, and all the varied costs and stressors associated with it, isn’t for you. But you’d still like to be a hands-on real estate investor. Why not consider buying investment (rental) properties?
One big advantage is the tax deduction folks get for their rental properties. They can write off their mortgage interest, property taxes, and operating expenses, as well as repairs.
Like home flippers, landlords-to-be should look at growing areas with new jobs moving in, says Steve Hovland
, director of research at HomeUnion, an Irvine, CA–based company that helps smaller investors buy and manage properties.
“I’m very bullish on high-growth markets, like Texas, the Southeast, Arizona. You’re always going to have new renter demand,” he says. But coastal cities can be tough for aspiring property owners because they’re just too expensive.
The best markets for investors were Cleveland
, which fetched a 11.5% yearly return; Cincinnati
, at 9.8%; Columbia, SC
, at 8.6%; Memphis, TN
, at 8.5%; and Richmond, VA
, at 8.2% in the first quarter of the year, according to HomeUnion. The worst were San Francisco
, at 2.8%, and Silicon Valley’s San Jose
, at 2.8%.
First-time investors may want to target middle-class neighborhoods near top-rated schools, where stability rules and tenants are more likely to hold steady jobs. These homes often require less maintenance—a boon to landlords who don’t live nearby.
“You’re always able to replace renters in nicer neighborhoods with good schools,” says Hovland.
Landlords who aren’t local or don’t want to deal with 3 a.m. calls about an overflowing toilet will want to consider hiring a property manager who will find tenants and coordinate (but not perform) maintenance. But that eats into profits, costing about 7% to 12% of the monthly rent.
And the payoff you get, as compared with flipping a home, isn’t in one lump sum, and isn’t always steady. For example, landlord and flipper Crossley rents out multiple single-family homes, duplexes, and apartments in the Reading, PA, area, and once had a couple stop paying their rent for six months after they went through a divorce. She had to eat those losses, as well as attorney fees, while she went through eviction court to get them out.
Landlords also need to have insurance on their properties and set up their rental companies to protect their personal assets, in case they get sued.
And like other investors, owners also run the risk that home prices—along with the rents they were counting on—could plunge.
“You have to be prepared for the worst. When something goes wrong in a tenant’s life, you’re the last person to get paid,” Crossley says.
3. U.S. REITs: Buying shares in real estate instead of companies
Those who’d like to own apartment and office buildings like a legit mogul but don’t have the bank balance to do so may want to turn to Real Estate Investment Trusts. Don’t worry if you’ve never heard of REITs. You don’t need a fancy finance degree to understand how they work.
Most REITs are publicly traded corporations that investors buy and sell shares in—just like stocks. Only instead of buying shares in Apple, you’re buying shares in real estate. Shares can range in price from just a few dollars to hundreds of bucks. Investors can buy into them on certain exchanges.
As with stocks, investors can make money by buying shares at a low price and selling them at a higher one, and
by collecting quarterly dividends (payouts are made every three months).
There are two main kinds of publicly traded REITS. Equity REITs own rental properties ranging from homes to business space, and make money collecting income on them. Residential and commercial mortgage REITs allow investors to buy mortgage debt where investors profit from the interest.
Of all of the real estate investment trusts, data center REITs—where companies rent out space to store their network servers—had the highest one-year returns, at 29.79%, according to the National Association of Real Investment Trusts, a Washington, D.C.-based REIT trade group. It was followed by home financing mortgage REITs, which invest in bundles of home loans, at 25.57%.
The biggest losses were in the retail sector, as more shoppers make their purchases online. (Thanks, Amazon!) Big shopping malls, usually anchored by department stores, took the biggest one-year hits, at -26.78%, according to the association.
4. Crowdfunded real estate: Like Kickstarter for property
Crowdfunded real estate
is like the younger, cooler cousin of REITs. Simply put, it allows ordinary folks to pool their money to invest in things like apartment complexes, office buildings, and shopping centers. It’s like a Kickstarter for buying real estate—instead of funding your college roommate’s feature-length documentary about Furries.
Previously available only to uber-wealthy accredited investors, crowdfunding only became open to the general public in March 2015. That’s when the government enacted new rules opening up the investments to folks without ginormous bank balances. So there isn’t much data available yet on how these investments perform over the long term.
While REITs can hold tens of thousands of properties and be worth billions of dollars, crowdfunding companies are often significantly smaller, holding just one or a handful of properties. And they often require a long-term commitment from investors.
As with REITs, the two main options in crowdfunded real estate investing are equity or debt.
Equity, the riskier of the two, involves investing in a fund connected to commercial or residential development. It makes money from the income the property generates and the increase in the value over time. The investment is usually tied up for about five to seven years. Debt is the loan used to get the project off the ground and continue to finance it through the life of the project.
Over time, accredited investors—the wealthier ones who have been in the investments the longest—typically receive anywhere from 11% to 45% annual returns on their equity crowdfunding investments, says Ian Ippolito
, a retired investor who founded the website The Real Estate Crowdfunding Review. Since these types of investments have only recently been opened up to the masses, the annual returns for regular investors are about 8.2%. That’s expected to rise if all goes well when the property is sold five to seven years down the line.
But if
the development doesn’t get fully built or doesn’t make any money, then investors may get nothing—and even lose their investment.
“These are long-term investments, so if you pull your money out early, there’s usually a financial penalty,” Ippolito says. That’s a big difference from REITs, which can be sold at any time. “Retirees who need the money soon probably should look elsewhere.”
Debt is a bit safer, but the payouts may not be as high.
5. Home appreciation: The investment you can live in
Folks don’t need to flip homes or pour money into crowdfunded projects to make money as a real estate investor. Instead, they can search hard for the perfect home, get their finances in order, negotiate smartly, and close the deal for the best possible price.
And then live in it.
Real estate typically appreciates over time. That means that buyers who buy a home in a decent area and keep it in good shape should make money when they decide to sell. Depending on the market and the home, sometimes a lot
of money. But they should plan on being in that home for at least five or so years, so they can build up enough equity in the home to net a profit once real estate agent fees and closing costs are accounted for.
“In general, buying a home is a good investment and a way to build wealth and equity over a lifetime,” says Joseph Kirchner
, senior economist at realtor.com®. “[But] even if you’re buying it to live in the house for the next 30 years, it is always better to buy when prices are low.”
And as folks build equity in their home, through appreciation and paying down their mortgage debt, they can take out home equity loans or home equity lines of credit against their property.
But of course, just as with the other investments on this list, there are risks. The country could enter into a new recession, or there could be a local housing market crash if a big employer leaves the area. Or homes in your area could simply be overvalued.
However, when home prices fall, they do generally rebound—eventually.
“Good markets aren’t going to last forever,” says real estate investment author Tyson. “Even the best real estate markets go through slow periods.”
* ATTOM Data Solution supplied the median gross home-flipping returns. HomeUnion provided the median returns of investment properties. The National Association of Real Estate Investment Trusts provided REIT performance data as of Sept. 21. The Real Estate Crowdfunding Review supplied the average crowdfunded real estate returns for nonaccredited investors. The review’s year-to-date data are through Aug. 1, while the two-year data are from October 2015 through Aug. 1, 2017. Median home appreciation is as of Aug. 1 and comes from realtor.com.
Regret is one of the strongest forces shaping seller decisions, even though it’s rarely discussed openly. People worry about selling too early, selling too late, selling for the “wrong” price, or missing out on something better. The fear of regret often keeps people stuck, not because they don’t want to move, but because they want to avoid feeling foolish later. Why regret feels so powerful in real estate Homes carry high stakes. They’re financial assets, emotional anchors, and symbols of stability all at once. That combination makes decisions feel permanent, even when they’re not. Regret thrives in uncertainty. When outcomes are unknown, the mind fills in worst-case scenarios. The two kinds of regret sellers worry about Most sellers are caught between two fears: Regret of action: “What if I sell and wish I hadn’t?” Regret of inaction: “What if I wait and wish I’d sold earlier?” Trying to eliminate regret entirely usually leads to paralysis. Why clarity reduces regret more than timing Regret tends to be lower when decisions are made with intention and information, even if the outcome isn’t perfect. Sellers who understand their reasons, explored alternatives, and chose a path aligned with their values tend to feel steadier afterward. Sellers who rushed or avoided the decision often replay it more. How to work with regret instead of against it Instead of asking how to avoid regret, it can help to ask: Which decision would I feel at peace explaining to myself later? What choice aligns with how I want this chapter to close? Those questions anchor decisions in meaning rather than prediction. A planning-forward reframe There is no version of selling that removes all uncertainty. But there are versions that feel honest, thoughtful, and grounded. When you focus on clarity over certainty, regret tends to lose its grip. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Andi Dyer is a Bellingham-based real estate broker with RE/MAX Whatcom County, specializing in helping longtime homeowners and sellers make confident, well-informed decisions. With a calm, data-driven approach and strong negotiation expertise, Andi focuses on protecting equity, reducing stress, and guiding sellers through the process with clarity and care. 📍 Serving Bellingham and all of Whatcom County 📞 Call or text: 360 • 734 • 6479 📧 Email: andi [at] andidyer [dot] com If fear of making the wrong move is what’s holding you back, starting with clarity often helps: 👉 Start with a low-pressure home value and seller planning tool here: https://www.andidyerrealestate.com/seller/valuation/ Zillow: https://www.zillow.com/profile/AndiDyer Re a ltor.com: https://www.realtor.com/realestateagents/andi-dyer Homes.com: https://www.homes.com/real-estate-agents/andi-dyer Google Business Profile: https://g.page/andi-dyer-real-estate Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndiDyerRealEstate Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andi.dyer
“I’m not ready” is one of the most common things sellers say. It’s also one of the least specific. Often, it doesn’t mean a lack of desire to sell. It means something else hasn’t been resolved yet. Understanding what “not ready” really points to can help sellers move forward without feeling rushed. The difference between readiness and clarity Readiness implies action. Clarity comes first. Many sellers aren’t lacking readiness. They’re lacking clarity about timing, finances, logistics, or emotional readiness for change. Until those pieces are understood, action feels premature. Common reasons sellers feel stuck Some sellers worry about where they’ll go next. Others worry about whether selling will actually simplify life or just exchange one set of problems for another. For longtime homeowners, there’s often an added layer of attachment to place, neighbors, and identity. None of these concerns are obstacles. They’re signals that planning needs to be more thoughtful, not faster. Why pressure backfires External pressure, from the market or from well-meaning friends, often makes sellers dig in rather than move forward. Pressure creates resistance. Clarity creates momentum. This is why the most productive conversations aren’t about convincing someone to sell. They’re about helping someone understand their options. How readiness tends to arrive Readiness usually shows up quietly, after enough questions have been answered. Sellers suddenly feel less reactive and more grounded. The decision stops feeling heavy. That shift rarely comes from waiting alone. It comes from information that removes uncertainty. How to Evaluate an Offer Beyond the Price When an offer arrives, most sellers look at the price first. That’s natural. But price alone rarely tells the full story of how strong an offer actually is. Some of the most stressful transactions happen when sellers accept the highest number without understanding the structure underneath it. Why price can be misleading A high price paired with fragile terms can be riskier than a slightly lower price with solid structure. Financing type, contingencies, timelines, and buyer flexibility all affect how likely the deal is to close cleanly. Price is a headline. Terms are the substance. What sellers should look at next After price, sellers should examine how the buyer is financing the purchase, how many contingencies exist, and how tight the timelines are. A well-qualified buyer with reasonable contingencies often represents a smoother path forward than an aggressive offer with multiple escape routes. The goal isn’t to eliminate risk entirely. It’s to choose which risks you’re comfortable carrying. Why certainty often has real value Certainty reduces stress. It also reduces the chance of renegotiation later. Sellers who prioritize certainty often find the process more predictable, even if the final number isn’t the absolute maximum possible. Predictability is undervalued until something goes wrong. How experience helps decode offers Understanding how offers typically play out over time matters more than reading them at face value. Some terms look harmless early on but become leverage points later. Others seem restrictive but rarely cause issues. This is where context and experience protect outcomes. A planning-forward reframe Instead of asking, “Which offer is highest?” ask: “Which offer gives me the best balance of value, certainty, and control?” That question leads to calmer decisions and cleaner closings. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Andi Dyer is a Bellingham-based real estate broker with RE/MAX Whatcom County, specializing in helping longtime homeowners and sellers make confident, well-informed decisions. With a calm, data-driven approach and strong negotiation expertise, Andi focuses on protecting equity, reducing stress, and guiding sellers through the process with clarity and care. 📍 Serving Bellingham and all of Whatcom County 📞 Call or text: 360 • 734 • 6479 📧 Email: andi [at] andidyer [dot] com If you want help evaluating offers with more than just the price in mind, start here: 👉 Start with a low-pressure home value and seller planning tool here: https://www.andidyerrealestate.com/seller/valuation/ Zillow: https://www.zillow.com/profile/AndiDyer Realtor.com: https://www.realtor.com/realestateagents/andi-dyer Homes.com: https://www.homes.com/real-estate-agents/andi-dyer Google Business Profile: https://g.page/andi-dyer-real-estate Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndiDyerRealEstate Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andi.dyer
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Many sellers imagine downsizing as a straightforward process. Decide to move. Sort belongings. Sell the house. Buy something smaller. Done. In reality, downsizing almost never unfolds in a straight line. It loops, pauses, speeds up, and slows down again. That unpredictability is normal. Why expectations don’t match reality Downsizing combines practical decisions with emotional ones. You’re not just choosing a smaller home. You’re deciding what to keep, what to release, and what version of life you’re stepping into next. Those decisions don’t happen all at once. They surface in waves. How emotional processing affects momentum Some weeks, sellers feel energized and decisive. Other weeks, they feel stuck or sentimental. This fluctuation can feel frustrating if you expect steady progress. In reality, emotional processing often moves ahead of logistical readiness. Giving yourself permission to pause prevents burnout. Why comparison can slow things down Comparing your downsizing journey to someone else’s can create unnecessary pressure. Everyone’s timeline, family structure, health, and priorities are different. What looks “fast” from the outside may have involved years of internal preparation. How to keep moving without forcing it The goal isn’t constant action. It’s forward motion that feels sustainable. Small steps matter. One room. One category. One conversation. Momentum builds when decisions feel respectful, not rushed. A planning-forward reframe Instead of asking, “Why isn’t this moving faster?” try asking: “What part of this process needs more time right now?” Listening to that answer often keeps the whole process healthier. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Andi Dyer is a Bellingham-based real estate broker with RE/MAX Whatcom County, specializing in helping longtime homeowners and sellers make confident, well-informed decisions. With a calm, data-driven approach and strong negotiation expertise, Andi focuses on protecting equity, reducing stress, and guiding sellers through the process with clarity and care. 📍 Serving Bellingham and all of Whatcom County 📞 Call or text: 360 • 734 • 6479 📧 Email: andi [at] andidyer [dot] com If downsizing feels slower or more emotional than expected, planning support can help: 👉 Start with a low-pressure home value and seller planning tool here: https://www.andidyerrealestate.com/seller/valuation/ Zillow: https://www.zillow.com/profile/AndiDyer Realtor.com: https://www.realtor.com/realestateagents/andi-dyer Homes.com: https://www.homes.com/real-estate-agents/andi-dyer Google Business Profile: https://g.page/andi-dyer-real-estate Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndiDyerRealEstate Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andi.dyer
Many sellers approach downsizing as a math problem. How much equity will I unlock? What will my monthly costs look like? Will I have enough space? Those questions matter, but they’re rarely the ones that make downsizing hard. What surprises most sellers is that downsizing is often less about square footage and more about identity. Why downsizing feels heavier than expected A longtime home often represents more than shelter. It holds routines, memories, and a sense of self that developed over years. Even when a smaller home makes perfect sense financially, the emotional weight of letting go can feel disproportionate. This disconnect is confusing. Sellers may wonder why they feel hesitant when the plan is clearly “smart.” The answer is that emotions don’t operate on spreadsheets. The difference between wanting simpler and feeling ready Many homeowners want less maintenance, fewer stairs, or a more manageable layout. Wanting simplicity is common. Feeling ready to release space is something else entirely. Downsizing asks you to decide what parts of your life take up physical room. That can stir grief, relief, guilt, and excitement all at once. None of those feelings mean you’re making the wrong decision. Why rushing the downsizing process backfires When sellers rush downsizing decisions, they often regret how they moved more than that they moved. Decisions made under time pressure tend to feel harsher and less intentional. Giving yourself time to think, plan, and emotionally adjust usually leads to better housing choices and a calmer transition. A planning-forward reframe Instead of asking, “Is it time to downsize?” try asking: “What kind of space do I want my next chapter to support?” That question shifts the focus from loss to design, which tends to feel far more empowering. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Andi Dyer is a Bellingham-based real estate broker with RE/MAX Whatcom County, specializing in helping longtime homeowners and sellers make confident, well-informed decisions. With a calm, data-driven approach and strong negotiation expertise, Andi focuses on protecting equity, reducing stress, and guiding sellers through the process with clarity and care. 📍 Serving Bellingham and all of Whatcom County 📞 Call or text: 360 • 734 • 6479 📧 Email: andi [at] andidyer [dot] com If you’re thinking about downsizing and want space to plan without pressure, start here: 👉 Start with a low-pressure home value and seller planning tool here: https://www.andidyerrealestate.com/seller/valuation/ Zillow: https://www.zillow.com/profile/AndiDyer Rea l tor.com: https://www.realtor.com/realestateagents/andi-dyer Homes.com: https://www.homes.com/real-estate-agents/andi-dyer Google Business Profile: https://g.page/andi-dyer-real-estate Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndiDyerRealEstate Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andi.dyer
Many sellers hold an unspoken standard in their minds: the sale should be fast, easy, and at the top of the market. When reality doesn’t match that ideal, disappointment can creep in, even if the outcome is objectively solid. The idea that a sale must be exceptional to be worthwhile can quietly undermine satisfaction. Why expectations escalate during selling Selling is a high-stakes moment. Stories circulate about bidding wars, waived contingencies, and record prices. Those stories become benchmarks, even when they don’t match your home, timing, or goals. When expectations inflate, anything less than extraordinary can feel like failure. What a “good enough” sale actually provides A good-enough sale achieves what matters most: it allows you to move forward. It protects your financial stability, supports your next chapter, and closes a door that was ready to be closed. It may include compromises, but those compromises are often the cost of momentum and peace of mind. Why chasing perfection increases stress Trying to engineer the perfect outcome often prolongs the process. Sellers may delay decisions, resist reasonable offers, or over-optimize every detail. The emotional cost of that pursuit can outweigh the marginal financial gain. Peace is rarely found in perfection. It’s found in alignment. How perspective shapes satisfaction Sellers who evaluate success based on their broader life goals tend to feel more content than those who measure success against hypothetical alternatives. When the sale supports your well-being, simplicity, or flexibility, it has done its job. A planning-forward reframe Instead of asking, “Could this have been better?” ask: “Does this outcome support the life I want to live now?” That question reframes success in a way that lasts. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Andi Dyer is a Bellingham-based real estate broker with RE/MAX Whatcom County, specializing in helping longtime homeowners and sellers make confident, well-informed decisions. With a calm, data-driven approach and strong negotiation expertise, Andi focuses on protecting equity, reducing stress, and guiding sellers through the process with clarity and care. 📍 Serving Bellingham and all of Whatcom County 📞 Call or text: 360 • 734 • 6479 📧 Email: andi [at] andidyer [dot] com If you’re trying to define what a “successful” sale looks like for you, a planning conversation can help: 👉 Start with a low-pressure home value and seller planning tool here: https://www.andidyerrealestate.com/seller/valuation/ Zillow: https://www.zillow.com/profile/AndiDyer Rea l tor.com: https://www.realtor.com/realestateagents/andi-dyer Homes.com: https://www.homes.com/real-estate-agents/andi-dyer Google Business Profile: https://g.page/andi-dyer-real-estate Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndiDyerRealEstate Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andi.dyer
Many sellers are surprised by a sense of loss that surfaces once they decide to sell, even when the decision is thoughtful, financially sound, and aligned with what they want next. This reaction can be confusing. After all, nothing bad happened. In many cases, selling is a positive move. The feeling doesn’t mean you’re making a mistake. It means you’re human. Why loss shows up even in “good” transitions Homes hold more than memories. They hold versions of ourselves. The person you were when you moved in. The routines you built. The chapter of life that unfolded there. Letting go of the home often means letting go of that version of life, even if you’re ready for something new. That’s why the sense of loss often appears after the decision is made. The mind has caught up, but the emotional system is still processing what’s ending. Why this feeling doesn’t mean you should stop A common reaction is to interpret grief as a warning sign. Sellers may think, “If this feels sad, maybe I shouldn’t do it.” In reality, grief and readiness often coexist. You can be ready to move forward and still mourn what you’re leaving behind. Trying to eliminate that feeling usually makes it louder. Acknowledging it tends to soften it. How unacknowledged loss affects the sale process When this feeling isn’t recognized, it can show up indirectly. Sellers may become overly sensitive to buyer feedback, resistant to negotiation, or hesitant to make practical decisions that move the sale forward. Recognizing the emotional layer helps prevent it from quietly steering decisions. A healthier way to hold the experience Many sellers find it helpful to think of selling not as erasing a chapter, but as closing it intentionally. You’re not dismissing what the home meant. You’re honoring it by choosing what comes next with clarity. A planning-forward reframe Instead of asking, “Why does this feel hard?” try asking: “What am I letting go of here, and what am I making room for?” That framing allows both truths to exist at the same time. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Andi Dyer is a Bellingham-based real estate broker with RE/MAX Whatcom County, specializing in helping longtime homeowners and sellers make confident, well-informed decisions. With a calm, data-driven approach and strong negotiation expertise, Andi focuses on protecting equity, reducing stress, and guiding sellers through the process with clarity and care. 📍 Serving Bellingham and all of Whatcom County 📞 Call or text: 360 • 734 • 6479 📧 Email: andi [at] andidyer [dot] com If you’re navigating the emotional side of selling and want a steady, thoughtful approach, start here: 👉 Start with a low-pressure home value and seller planning tool here: https://www.andidyerrealestate.com/seller/valuation/ Zillow: https://www.zillow.com/profile/AndiDyer Rea l tor.com: https://www.realtor.com/realestateagents/andi-dyer Homes.com: https://www.homes.com/real-estate-agents/andi-dyer Google Business Profile: https://g.page/andi-dyer-real-estate Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndiDyerRealEstate Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andi.dyer
Every seller hopes for a clean, easy transaction. In reality, most sales include at least one compromise, one surprise, or one moment that doesn’t go as planned. The difference between a stressful experience and a manageable one often comes down to how sellers frame those imperfections. An imperfect sale is not a failed sale. It’s a human one. Why perfection is an unrealistic benchmark Real estate transactions involve multiple people, systems, timelines, and emotions. Expecting everything to align perfectly sets sellers up for disappointment. Even strong sales include adjustments, negotiations, and moments of uncertainty. Those moments don’t erase the overall success of the outcome. How sellers judge themselves too harshly Many sellers measure success by comparing their experience to idealized stories they’ve heard from others. “My friend sold in three days.” “That house went for way over asking.” These comparisons ignore context and tradeoffs. A sale that supports your goals, even imperfectly, is still a good sale. Why focusing on the outcome matters more than the process The process is where frustration often lives. The outcome is where relief and stability usually show up. Sellers who keep sight of why they sold — reduced stress, simpler living, financial flexibility — tend to feel more at peace with the bumps along the way. Letting go of “could have” thinking “What if” questions are endless. What if you waited. What if you priced differently. What if another buyer appeared. Those questions rarely lead anywhere productive once the sale is complete. Closure comes from acknowledging that decisions were made with the information available at the time. A planning-forward reframe Instead of asking, “Was this perfect?” ask: “Did this move me closer to the life I wanted to create?” That question tends to quiet lingering doubt. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Andi Dyer is a Bellingham-based real estate broker with RE/MAX Whatcom County, specializing in helping longtime homeowners and sellers make confident, well-informed decisions. With a calm, data-driven approach and strong negotiation expertise, Andi focuses on protecting equity, reducing stress, and guiding sellers through the process with clarity and care. 📍 Serving Bellingham and all of Whatcom County 📞 Call or text: 360 • 734 • 6479 📧 Email: andi [at] andidyer [dot] com If you want help keeping perspective during or after a sale, a planning conversation can help: 👉 Start with a low-pressure home value and seller planning tool here: https://www.andidyerrealestate.com/seller/valuation/ Zillow: https://www.zillow.com/profile/AndiDyer Rea l tor.com: https://www.realtor.com/realestateagents/andi-dyer Homes.com: https://www.homes.com/real-estate-agents/andi-dyer Google Business Profile: https://g.page/andi-dyer-real-estate Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndiDyerRealEstate Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andi.dyer
Even sellers who are excited about what’s next are often surprised by a sense of finality when selling. It’s not sadness exactly. It’s reflection. Selling a home marks the end of a chapter, whether it was a good one, a hard one, or both. Why this feeling catches people off guard Most people prepare financially and logistically. Few prepare emotionally. The realization that this phase of life is ending often arrives late in the process. That can feel unsettling, even when the decision is right. How memories surface during selling Packing, cleaning, and showing the home often bring up moments you hadn’t thought about in years. These memories don’t mean you’re second-guessing. They mean you’re integrating the experience. Acknowledging that process helps prevent emotional whiplash. Why honoring the chapter matters Sellers who allow themselves to reflect tend to transition more smoothly. They don’t rush past the meaning of the home or dismiss their own feelings. Closure doesn’t require ceremony. It requires recognition. How this awareness affects decisions When sellers recognize the emotional layer, they’re less likely to overreact to small issues or feedback. They approach decisions with more patience and self-compassion. That steadiness often improves outcomes. A planning-forward reframe Instead of asking, “Why does this feel heavier than I expected?” try asking: “What has this home represented in my life, and what am I ready to make room for next?” That question often brings peace. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Andi Dyer is a Bellingham-based real estate broker with RE/MAX Whatcom County, specializing in helping longtime homeowners and sellers make confident, well-informed decisions. With a calm, data-driven approach and strong negotiation expertise, Andi focuses on protecting equity, reducing stress, and guiding sellers through the process with clarity and care. 📍 Serving Bellingham and all of Whatcom County 📞 Call or text: 360 • 734 • 6479 📧 Email: andi [at] andidyer [dot] com If you’re navigating the emotional side of selling and want a steady, thoughtful approach, you can start here: 👉 Start with a low-pressure home value and seller planning tool here: https://www.andidyerrealestate.com/seller/valuation/ Zillow: https://www.zillow.com/profile/AndiDyer Rea l tor.com: https://www.realtor.com/realestateagents/andi-dyer Homes.com: https://www.homes.com/real-estate-agents/andi-dyer Google Business Profile: https://g.page/andi-dyer-real-estate Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndiDyerRealEstate Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andi.dyer
Equity is often talked about like a number on paper, but once you sell, it becomes something much more tangible. It turns into options, responsibility, and sometimes pressure. Many sellers are surprised by how emotional this stage feels. Why equity decisions feel heavy Equity represents years of work, sacrifice, and patience. Once it’s realized, there’s often a sense that you need to “do something smart” with it right away. That pressure can lead to rushed decisions or unnecessary stress. Common paths sellers consider Some sellers use equity to reduce monthly expenses. Others reinvest, support family, or hold funds while deciding what’s next. None of these paths are inherently right or wrong. What matters is alignment with your priorities and risk tolerance. Why “doing nothing” is sometimes a valid choice Holding equity in a safe place while you think is not wasted time. It’s often how clarity forms. Rushing to redeploy funds can feel productive but may create regret later if decisions aren’t well-considered. The importance of separating advice from obligation Well-meaning people may have strong opinions about what you should do with your equity. Those opinions often reflect their values, not yours. Your equity should support your life, not someone else’s expectations. A planning-forward reframe Instead of asking, “What should I do with this money?” try asking “What do I want this equity to make easier?” That question tends to lead to calmer, more intentional choices. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Andi Dyer is a Bellingham-based real estate broker with RE/MAX Whatcom County, specializing in helping longtime homeowners and sellers make confident, well-informed decisions. With a calm, data-driven approach and strong negotiation expertise, Andi focuses on protecting equity, reducing stress, and guiding sellers through the process with clarity and care. 📍 Serving Bellingham and all of Whatcom County 📞 Call or text: 360 • 734 • 6479 📧 Email: andi [at] andidyer [dot] com If you’re thinking ahead about how a sale could support your next chapter, start here: 👉 Start with a low-pressure home value and seller planning tool here: https://www.andidyerrealestate.com/seller/valuation/ Zillow: https://www.zillow.com/profile/AndiDyer Rea l tor.com: https://www.realtor.com/realestateagents/andi-dyer Homes.com: https://www.homes.com/real-estate-agents/andi-dyer Google Business Profile: https://g.page/andi-dyer-real-estate Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndiDyerRealEstate Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andi.dyer
