What You Need to Know Before Accepting — or Rejecting — an Offer
Andi • May 5, 2020
It’s not always about the money (except when it is).
The day will come — and it will be a wonderful, joyous, do-a-happy-dance day — when you receive an offer, or multiple offers, for your home.
And on that day, you’re going to face a question you may not have previously considered: How do you know if an offer is the best one for you?
Your listing agent will be a big help here. They will understand and help you suss out the merits and faults of an offer because — believe it or not — it’s not always about price.
One buyer’s beautifully high offer might not look so good anymore, for example, if you discover that it’s contingent upon you moving out a month earlier than planned. Or, conversely, you may prefer speed over price, particularly if you’re moving to a new city.
Your listing agent will have a sense of what you want financially and personally — and can help you determine whether the offer at hand satisfies those goals.
Before the first offer rolls in, here’s what you need to know about the offer evaluation process, including the main factors that should go into making a decision — accept or reject? — with your agent.
5 Important Things — Other Than Price — to Consider When Evaluating an Offer
Want to fetch top dollar for your home and walk away with as much money in your pocket as possible? Of course you do. You’ve gone through the time-consuming process of setting your asking price , staging your home , promoting your listing, and preparing for open houses — and should be rewarded for your efforts.
Your first instinct may be to just pick the highest bid on the table. But the offer price isn’t the only thing worth considering.
When vetting offers, evaluate these five areas in addition to price:
1. THE EARNEST MONEY DEPOSIT. One important consideration when weighing an offer is the size of the earnest money deposit. The EMD is the sum of cash the buyer is offering to fork over when the sales agreement is signed to show the person is serious (i.e., “earnest”) about buying your home. This money, which is typically held by a title company, will go toward the buyer’s down payment at closing.
A standard EMD is 1% to 3% of the cost of the home (so, that would be $2,000 to $6,000 on a $200,000 house). If a buyer tries to back out of an offer for no good reason, the seller typically keeps the EMD. Therefore, the higher the earnest money, the stronger the offer.
2. THE CONTINGENCIES. Most offers have contingencies — provisions that must be met for the transaction to go through, or the buyer is entitled to walk away from the deal with their earnest money. Contracts with fewer contingencies are more likely to reach closing, and in a timely fashion.
Here are five of the most common contingencies:
- Home inspection contingency. This gives the buyer the right to have the home professionally inspected and request repairs by a certain date — typically within five to seven days of the purchase agreement being signed. Depending on where you live, you may be required to make home repairs for structural defects, building code violations, or safety issues. Most repair requests are negotiable, though, so you have the option to haggle over which fixes you’re willing to make.
- Appraisal contingency. For a mortgage lender to approve a home buyer’s loan, the home must pass appraisal — a process during which the property’s value is assessed by a neutral third party. The appraisal verifies that the home is worth at least enough money to cover the price of the mortgage. (In the event the buyer can’t make their mortgage payments, the lender can foreclose on the home and sell the property to recoup all — or at least some — of its costs.) Generally, the home buyer is responsible for paying for the appraisal, which typically takes place within 14 days of the sales contract being signed.
- Financing contingency. Also called a loan contingency or mortgage contingency, a financing contingency protects the buyer in the event their lender doesn’t approve their mortgage. Although the timeframe for financing contingencies can vary, mortgage lenders report that buyers generally have about 21 days to obtain mortgage approval.
- Sale of current home contingency. Depending on the buyer’s financial situation, their offer may be contingent on the sale of their home. Usually, buyers have a window of 30 to 90 days to sell their house before the sales agreement is voided. This contingency puts you, the seller, at a disadvantage because you can’t control whether the buyer sells their house in time.
- Title contingency. Before approving a mortgage, a lender will require the borrower to “clear title” — a process in which the buyer’s title company reviews any potential easements or agreements that are on public record. This ensures the buyer is becoming the rightful owner of the property and the lender is protected from ownership claims over liens, fraudulent claims from previous owners, clerical problems in courthouse documents, or forged signatures.
These contingencies are standard for most real estate sales contracts. There’s one exception: the sale of current home contingency, which tends to be used more often in strong buyer’s markets, when buyers have greater leverage over sellers.
That being said, contingencies are always negotiable. (The caveat: Mortgage lenders require borrowers to have appraisal financing contingencies, or they won’t approve the loan.) It’s up to you to decide what you’re comfortable agreeing to, and your agent can help you make that decision.
3. THE DOWN PAYMENT. Depending on the type of mortgage, the buyer must make a down payment on the house — and the size of that down payment can affect the strength of the offer. In most cases, a buyer’s down payment amount is related to the home loan they’re taking out. Your chief concern as a seller, of course, is for the transaction to close — and for that to happen, the buyer’s mortgage has be approved.
Generally, a larger down payment signals the buyer’s financial wherewithal to complete the sale. The average down payment, according to the NATIONAL ASSOCIATION OF REALTORS ® , is 10%. Some mortgage products, such as FHA and VA loans, allow for even lower down payments.
If, by chance, the appraisal comes in higher than your contract’s sale price, the buyer with a higher down payment would more likely be able to cover the difference with the large amount of cash they have available.
4. THE ALL-CASH OFFER. The more cash the buyer plunks down, the more likely the lender is to approve their loan. That’s why an all-cash offer is ideal for both parties. The buyer doesn’t have to fulfill an appraisal contingency — whereby their lender has the home appraised to make sure the property value is large enough to cover the mortgage — or a financing contingency, which requires buyers to obtain mortgage approval within a certain number of days. As always, having a sales contract with fewer contingencies means there are fewer ways for the deal to fall through.
5. THE CLOSING DATE. Settlement, or “closing,” is the day when both parties sign the final paperwork and make the sale official. Typically, the whole process — from accepting an offer to closing — takes between 30 and 60 days; however, the average closing time is 42 days, according to a report from mortgage software company Ellie Mae.
Three days before closing, the buyer receives a closing disclosure from the lender, which he compares with the loan estimate he received when he applied for the loan. If there are material differences between the buyer’s loan estimate and closing disclosure, the closing can’t happen until those amounts are reviewed and approved. But this is rare.
Some transactions can take more time, depending on the buyer’s financing. For example, the average closing time for a Federal Housing Administration (FHA) loan is 43 days, according to Ellie Mae.
Whether you want a slow or quick settlement will depend on your circumstances. If you’ve already purchased your next home, for instance, you probably want to close as soon as possible. On the other hand, you may want a longer closing period — say, 60 days — if you need the proceeds from the sale to purchase your new home.
When Should You Make a Counteroffer?
Depending on the circumstances, you may be in the position to make a counteroffer. But every transaction is different, based on the particular market conditions and your home. In some circumstances, you can be gutsy with your counteroffer. In others, it might serve your goals better to give in to the buyer’s demands. Your agent can provide helpful insight about when and why a counteroffer will be the right thing for you.
For instance: If you’re in a seller’s market — meaning that homes are selling quickly and for more than the asking prices — and you received multiple offers, your agent may recommend you counteroffer with an amount higher than you would have in a buyer’s market.
If you choose to write a counteroffer, your agent will negotiate on your behalf to make sure you get the best deal for you.
A caveat: In many states sellers can’t legally make a counteroffer to more than one buyer at the same time, since they’re obligated to sign a purchase agreement if a buyer accepts the new offer.
When Does an Offer Become a Contract?
In a nutshell, a deal is under contract when the buyer’s offer (or seller’s counteroffer) is agreed upon and signed by both parties. At that point, the clock starts ticking for the home buyer’s contingencies — and for the sweet moment when the cash — and home — is yours.
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Market uncertainty tends to amplify stress. Headlines fluctuate. Predictions conflict. Sellers may worry that every decision could be the “wrong” one. The truth is that uncertainty is not a temporary glitch in real estate. It’s a permanent feature. Learning how to stay grounded within it is what creates confidence. Why uncertainty feels especially uncomfortable during selling Selling requires action under imperfect information. That goes against the brain’s preference for certainty. When the market feels unstable, sellers may delay decisions, constantly revise plans, or feel pressure to act quickly before conditions change again. Why waiting for certainty rarely works Certainty usually arrives only in hindsight. Waiting for perfect clarity often means waiting indefinitely. What helps more than certainty is having a flexible plan that can adapt as conditions shift. How grounded sellers approach uncertainty Grounded sellers focus on what they can control: preparation, pricing alignment, communication, and pacing. They accept that not every variable can be predicted. This mindset reduces anxiety and improves decision quality. The role of values in uncertain markets When decisions are aligned with personal values rather than predictions, outcomes tend to feel steadier even if the market changes. Knowing why you’re selling matters more than knowing exactly what will happen next. A planning-forward reframe Instead of asking, “Is this the right time?” try asking: “What choice allows me to move forward with the most stability?” That question anchors decisions even when answers are imperfect. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Andi Dyer is a Bellingham-based real estate broker with RE/MAX Whatcom County, specializing in helping longtime homeowners and sellers make confident, well-informed decisions. With a calm, data-driven approach and strong negotiation expertise, Andi focuses on protecting equity, reducing stress, and guiding sellers through the process with clarity and care. 📍 Serving Bellingham and all of Whatcom County 📞 Call or text: 360 • 734 • 6479 📧 Email: andi [at] andidyer [dot] com If uncertainty is making it hard to know your next step, clarity can start with information: 👉 Start with a low-pressure home value and seller planning tool here: https://www.andidyerrealestate.com/seller/valuation/ Zillow: https://www.zillow.com/profile/AndiDyer Rea l tor.com: https://www.realtor.com/realestateagents/andi-dyer Homes.com: https://www.homes.com/real-estate-agents/andi-dyer Google Business Profile: https://g.page/andi-dyer-real-estate Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndiDyerRealEstate Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andi.dyer
Many sellers worry they’ll pick the “wrong” moment to sell. They watch headlines, track interest rates, and wait for a signal that says now is the right time. That pressure can quietly stall decisions for months or even years. The truth most sellers eventually discover is that market timing matters far less than life timing. Why market timing feels so important Market timing promises control. If you sell at the peak, you win. If you miss it, you feel like you failed. This framing turns selling into a test rather than a transition. But real estate markets are only fully clear in hindsight. Most people who “timed it perfectly” didn’t know they were doing so at the time. What life timing actually accounts for Life timing considers things the market can’t measure: Energy and capacity Health and mobility Family needs Desire for simplicity Readiness for change These factors often matter more to long-term satisfaction than a marginal price difference. Why waiting for the perfect moment creates pressure When sellers delay waiting for the perfect market, they often feel rushed later. Life changes anyway. Maintenance continues. Decisions become compressed. Selling earlier, with intention, often creates more options than selling later under pressure. How grounded sellers think about timing Grounded sellers don’t try to predict the market. They assess whether selling now would make life easier, not harder. When that answer is yes, the decision tends to hold up well over time. A planning-forward reframe Instead of asking, “Is this the best market?” try asking: “Would selling now support the way I want to live over the next few years?” That question usually brings more clarity than charts ever will. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Andi Dyer is a Bellingham-based real estate broker with RE/MAX Whatcom County, specializing in helping longtime homeowners and sellers make confident, well-informed decisions. With a calm, data-driven approach and strong negotiation expertise, Andi focuses on protecting equity, reducing stress, and guiding sellers through the process with clarity and care. 📍 Serving Bellingham and all of Whatcom County 📞 Call or text: 360 • 734 • 6479 📧 Email: andi [at] andidyer [dot] com If you’re trying to weigh market conditions against personal readiness, a planning conversation can help: 👉 Start with a low-pressure home value and seller planning tool here: https://www.andidyerrealestate.com/seller/valuation/ Zillow: https://www.zillow.com/profile/AndiDyer Realtor.com: https://www.realtor.com/realestateagents/andi-dyer Homes.com: https://www.homes.com/real-estate-agents/andi-dyer Google Business Profile: https://g.page/andi-dyer-real-estate Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndiDyerRealEstate Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andi.dyer
Regret is one of the strongest forces shaping seller decisions, even though it’s rarely discussed openly. People worry about selling too early, selling too late, selling for the “wrong” price, or missing out on something better. The fear of regret often keeps people stuck, not because they don’t want to move, but because they want to avoid feeling foolish later. Why regret feels so powerful in real estate Homes carry high stakes. They’re financial assets, emotional anchors, and symbols of stability all at once. That combination makes decisions feel permanent, even when they’re not. Regret thrives in uncertainty. When outcomes are unknown, the mind fills in worst-case scenarios. The two kinds of regret sellers worry about Most sellers are caught between two fears: Regret of action: “What if I sell and wish I hadn’t?” Regret of inaction: “What if I wait and wish I’d sold earlier?” Trying to eliminate regret entirely usually leads to paralysis. Why clarity reduces regret more than timing Regret tends to be lower when decisions are made with intention and information, even if the outcome isn’t perfect. Sellers who understand their reasons, explored alternatives, and chose a path aligned with their values tend to feel steadier afterward. Sellers who rushed or avoided the decision often replay it more. How to work with regret instead of against it Instead of asking how to avoid regret, it can help to ask: Which decision would I feel at peace explaining to myself later? What choice aligns with how I want this chapter to close? Those questions anchor decisions in meaning rather than prediction. A planning-forward reframe There is no version of selling that removes all uncertainty. But there are versions that feel honest, thoughtful, and grounded. When you focus on clarity over certainty, regret tends to lose its grip. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Andi Dyer is a Bellingham-based real estate broker with RE/MAX Whatcom County, specializing in helping longtime homeowners and sellers make confident, well-informed decisions. With a calm, data-driven approach and strong negotiation expertise, Andi focuses on protecting equity, reducing stress, and guiding sellers through the process with clarity and care. 📍 Serving Bellingham and all of Whatcom County 📞 Call or text: 360 • 734 • 6479 📧 Email: andi [at] andidyer [dot] com If fear of making the wrong move is what’s holding you back, starting with clarity often helps: 👉 Start with a low-pressure home value and seller planning tool here: https://www.andidyerrealestate.com/seller/valuation/ Zillow: https://www.zillow.com/profile/AndiDyer Re a ltor.com: https://www.realtor.com/realestateagents/andi-dyer Homes.com: https://www.homes.com/real-estate-agents/andi-dyer Google Business Profile: https://g.page/andi-dyer-real-estate Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndiDyerRealEstate Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andi.dyer
“I’m not ready” is one of the most common things sellers say. It’s also one of the least specific. Often, it doesn’t mean a lack of desire to sell. It means something else hasn’t been resolved yet. Understanding what “not ready” really points to can help sellers move forward without feeling rushed. The difference between readiness and clarity Readiness implies action. Clarity comes first. Many sellers aren’t lacking readiness. They’re lacking clarity about timing, finances, logistics, or emotional readiness for change. Until those pieces are understood, action feels premature. Common reasons sellers feel stuck Some sellers worry about where they’ll go next. Others worry about whether selling will actually simplify life or just exchange one set of problems for another. For longtime homeowners, there’s often an added layer of attachment to place, neighbors, and identity. None of these concerns are obstacles. They’re signals that planning needs to be more thoughtful, not faster. Why pressure backfires External pressure, from the market or from well-meaning friends, often makes sellers dig in rather than move forward. Pressure creates resistance. Clarity creates momentum. This is why the most productive conversations aren’t about convincing someone to sell. They’re about helping someone understand their options. How readiness tends to arrive Readiness usually shows up quietly, after enough questions have been answered. Sellers suddenly feel less reactive and more grounded. The decision stops feeling heavy. That shift rarely comes from waiting alone. It comes from information that removes uncertainty. How to Evaluate an Offer Beyond the Price When an offer arrives, most sellers look at the price first. That’s natural. But price alone rarely tells the full story of how strong an offer actually is. Some of the most stressful transactions happen when sellers accept the highest number without understanding the structure underneath it. Why price can be misleading A high price paired with fragile terms can be riskier than a slightly lower price with solid structure. Financing type, contingencies, timelines, and buyer flexibility all affect how likely the deal is to close cleanly. Price is a headline. Terms are the substance. What sellers should look at next After price, sellers should examine how the buyer is financing the purchase, how many contingencies exist, and how tight the timelines are. A well-qualified buyer with reasonable contingencies often represents a smoother path forward than an aggressive offer with multiple escape routes. The goal isn’t to eliminate risk entirely. It’s to choose which risks you’re comfortable carrying. Why certainty often has real value Certainty reduces stress. It also reduces the chance of renegotiation later. Sellers who prioritize certainty often find the process more predictable, even if the final number isn’t the absolute maximum possible. Predictability is undervalued until something goes wrong. How experience helps decode offers Understanding how offers typically play out over time matters more than reading them at face value. Some terms look harmless early on but become leverage points later. Others seem restrictive but rarely cause issues. This is where context and experience protect outcomes. A planning-forward reframe Instead of asking, “Which offer is highest?” ask: “Which offer gives me the best balance of value, certainty, and control?” That question leads to calmer decisions and cleaner closings. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Andi Dyer is a Bellingham-based real estate broker with RE/MAX Whatcom County, specializing in helping longtime homeowners and sellers make confident, well-informed decisions. With a calm, data-driven approach and strong negotiation expertise, Andi focuses on protecting equity, reducing stress, and guiding sellers through the process with clarity and care. 📍 Serving Bellingham and all of Whatcom County 📞 Call or text: 360 • 734 • 6479 📧 Email: andi [at] andidyer [dot] com If you want help evaluating offers with more than just the price in mind, start here: 👉 Start with a low-pressure home value and seller planning tool here: https://www.andidyerrealestate.com/seller/valuation/ Zillow: https://www.zillow.com/profile/AndiDyer Realtor.com: https://www.realtor.com/realestateagents/andi-dyer Homes.com: https://www.homes.com/real-estate-agents/andi-dyer Google Business Profile: https://g.page/andi-dyer-real-estate Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndiDyerRealEstate Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andi.dyer
This is a question many sellers don’t ask out loud, but it quietly shapes everything else. People often focus on market timing, interest rates, or pricing strategy, when the real hesitation lives somewhere else entirely. You might be financially ready. You might even be logically ready. But emotional readiness is different, and ignoring it can make an otherwise solid plan feel exhausting or rushed. Why this question is harder than it sounds Selling a home isn’t just a transaction. It’s a transition. Even when the move is positive, it often involves letting go of routines, memories, and a sense of identity tied to a place. That’s why some sellers feel unsettled even when the numbers work. They may second-guess decisions, feel defensive about feedback, or rush to resolve uncertainty just to “get it over with.” Those reactions aren’t signs that you shouldn’t sell. They’re signs that the emotional side of the decision hasn’t had time to catch up with the practical side. Emotional readiness doesn’t mean feeling certain A common misconception is that being ready means feeling confident and decisive all the time. In reality, many sellers feel a mix of relief, sadness, excitement, and doubt all at once. Emotional readiness is less about certainty and more about capacity. It’s about whether you feel able to engage in the process without it consuming you. Questions that often signal readiness include: Can I hear buyer feedback without taking it personally? Am I open to adjusting plans if new information comes in? Do I feel rushed by external pressure, or supported by my own timeline? You don’t need perfect answers. You just need awareness. Why timing without readiness creates friction When sellers move forward before they’re emotionally ready, small issues tend to feel big. A slow week of showings can trigger anxiety. An inspection report can feel like a judgment. A negotiation can feel confrontational instead of procedural. None of this means the sale is wrong. It means the pace may be off. Slowing down earlier often prevents stress later. What readiness can look like in practice Emotionally ready sellers don’t necessarily feel detached. They feel grounded. They can hold both attachment to the home and curiosity about what comes next. They’re more likely to approach decisions as choices rather than ultimatums. That mindset creates flexibility, which tends to lead to better outcomes. A planning-forward reframe Instead of asking, “Am I ready to sell?” a gentler question is: “What would help me feel steadier before I start?” Sometimes the answer is time. Sometimes it’s information. Sometimes it’s simply knowing you’re not locked into a decision the moment you ask questions. That awareness alone can make the process feel far more manageable. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Andi Dyer is a Bellingham-based real estate broker with RE/MAX Whatcom County, specializing in helping longtime homeowners and sellers make confident, well-informed decisions. With a calm, data-driven approach and strong negotiation expertise, Andi focuses on protecting equity, reducing stress, and guiding sellers through the process with clarity and care. 📍 Serving Bellingham and all of Whatcom County 📞 Call or text: 360 • 734 • 6479 📧 Email: andi [at] andidyer [dot] com If you’re thinking about selling but want space to explore the idea without pressure, start here: 👉 Start with a low-pressure home value and seller planning tool here: https://www.andidyerrealestate.com/seller/valuation/ Zillow: https://www.zillow.com/profile/AndiDyer Rea l tor.com: https://www.realtor.com/realestateagents/andi-dyer Homes.com: https://www.homes.com/real-estate-agents/andi-dyer Google Business Profile: https://g.page/andi-dyer-real-estate Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AndiDyerRealEstate Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andi.dyer
